A Letter To Young Couples
Dear Young Couple,
I am Mr. G, and I want to share some truths with you. The world is an amazing place filled with experiences. The meaning of life is to live. You were not brought into existence to be a slave to a higher system that the masses are blind to, but that is the society we currently live in. If you don't think so ask yourself why are there different social groups? Who really wants to be 42 years old working at McDonalds to support their family? Who really wants to work multiple jobs just to be able to still live paycheck to paycheck? Nobody does but that is the reality some people live in. It was their bad choices that led them there. That's a frame of mind that ultimately will lead you down the same path.
This article is targeted to you, because you have choices in this life that nobody else should make for you. The same way life has manifested into a society of bills, working, and advertisement. You can be whatever you want in this life but you will always be asked to buy something and told the only way to be an anything is to do it the right way. The right way can be the legal way, or the religious way. Regardless we are told anyone who does it the opposite way is wrong, a deviant, a criminal, or a sinner. The list of what wrong looks like is long, but we are going to focus on becoming parents.
Before you couples, decide to conceive a child you need to ask yourselves the real question of, "Are we ready?". Having a child can be very inconvenient, if not planned properly. We would have better people in this world if parents wait to have children when they are secured in life. When I say secured in life I mean, you both have a steady stream of income to where you can actually start saving. You are not drowning in debt and can actually say that your credit is improving. Sounds like somewhere in your mid 30's doesn't it? Where ever that is in your life, try and get there before having children. I want you to understand that your life is no longer about you once you become a parent, it becomes about your child. That child didn't ask to be brought into this world. The two of you created that child, therefore you two are responsible for raising that child. You two are responsible for, feeding your creation, caring for your creation, teaching your creation lessons you have overcome in your past. I stay away from right and wrong, because if you experienced something in your life that you survived by doing it your way, someone who didn't experience it will swear there is a logical legal, religious way to do it. Remember life is about experiences, teach your children the lessons you have learned. Don't rely on the media to raise your children, or the church, or even your parents. You two need to raise your children accordingly, because the harsh truth is that it takes two adults to effectively raise a child. If it is only one of you its going to be tremendously hard to do it yourself. Ask a single mother with two children if she wants a break and be prepared to hear yes.
I want you two to know that to be effective parents all you need to do is, be there for your children, shield them from the negativity of the world, and support their growth into another responsible member of society. Regardless of if you two are making great plans for the future and you have it all mapped out in your head, I urge you to wait until you have the necessities of life down before you have children. The necessities being a home, income to keep that home, reasonable transportation, and each others support. The sad thing is that life is beautiful, because she is mysterious. We never know what is next in life. One day you can have your sources of income that support your life, and the next day it can be gone, now you two need to figure something out to substitute it. That is fine, things happen but now raising your child has increased in difficulty. The harsh reality is that one of you can pass away at anytime. Now its just you and your children, and now raising your child has just become that more difficult. Many things can happen, from employment changes, to divorces, to deaths. Its all just life, we cant control that but we can make things easier on ourselves by making life easier to move through. I look at life as a video game where we pick our character then we pick our difficulty setting. Easy Mode: Married, Careers, Financial Stability. Difficult Mode: Single Parent, Dead End Jobs, Struggling Financially. If you introduce a child into the mix before you have that platform of stability you will have a difficult life there after.
These days people have children and aren't parents because they are still children themselves, then are peer pressured by society to try and do their best to be a parent. Why are they even parents if they are so young? Society is the culprit. Society is controlled by the media because it is what connects us, the media controls the news which is how we see our unity with the rest of the country. The number of advertisement that we see throughout any given day is staggering. Sex appeal is a powerful motivator, it sells shows and even ideas. Look at anime, guys were looked at as nerd and weirdos if they were interested in anime in any capacity with Dragon Ball Z being the only real exception. Eventually appeal started to increase for anime because of the acknowledgement of sexually appealing actors who enjoyed anime. Overnight everybody and their momma became anime fans. The main point is that sex appeal sells and a bi product is exploring your sexual curiosity. Young adults even young teens see these ads and watch different series that portray sexual exploits. Eventually you are going to have your own sexual experience, what ever age it is its going to happen. Regardless of when it is or if you were smart and used protection, you need to be prepared for the shocker that even a few pumps and dump can create a child. I don't care about abstinence, birth control (Side note, birth control ruins most girls body in the long run.), or contraceptives I just don't want you all to think the best thing to do is for these young people to do is have that baby.
The harsh truth is that society shames young people into raising mistakes and it needs to end. If you two did not plan to make a baby, but you did and you two are not stable, you two are doing that child a disservice. Where you grant that child life you subject that child to struggle, confusion, resentment, and years of unnecessary anguish. Not just the child but yourself, and your partner. I am not saying that you need to be in and out of abortion clinics, or be on regular Plan B coladas, but you need to take the proper precaution to prevent pregnancy. The rest of you need to realize the harsh truth that mistakes happen and proceeding forward with the pregnancy is only going to perplex life for everyone involved. If the two people involved want to proceed forward, let them that is their decision. But if either one is not comfortable with going forward, spare them, that child and the rest of society the burden of the mistake that has happened. Some parents force their children's significant other to go through with the pregnancy out of deflection of shame or to prevent a sullying of the family name. The bases for the majority of shotgun weddings. Out of trying to elude shame they invite struggle. In the name of doing what's right they force people who are not stable in life to make the best of a bad decision.
I'm sure some of you might be outraged but you know what, when you calm down you will realize that I am correct. You may have been a child brought up in a world where your parents weren't stable when they had you. Your parents may have gotten things together and done their best to raise you. To each is own, just don't force anyone to become a parent if they are not ready, because you will cause them to suffer unnecessarily as well as the child.
If you have some objections to what has been said do let me know below. I am interested in your points on why forcing someone who is not stable in life to become a parent is acceptable.
I am Mr. G, and I want to share some truths with you. The world is an amazing place filled with experiences. The meaning of life is to live. You were not brought into existence to be a slave to a higher system that the masses are blind to, but that is the society we currently live in. If you don't think so ask yourself why are there different social groups? Who really wants to be 42 years old working at McDonalds to support their family? Who really wants to work multiple jobs just to be able to still live paycheck to paycheck? Nobody does but that is the reality some people live in. It was their bad choices that led them there. That's a frame of mind that ultimately will lead you down the same path.
This article is targeted to you, because you have choices in this life that nobody else should make for you. The same way life has manifested into a society of bills, working, and advertisement. You can be whatever you want in this life but you will always be asked to buy something and told the only way to be an anything is to do it the right way. The right way can be the legal way, or the religious way. Regardless we are told anyone who does it the opposite way is wrong, a deviant, a criminal, or a sinner. The list of what wrong looks like is long, but we are going to focus on becoming parents.
Before you couples, decide to conceive a child you need to ask yourselves the real question of, "Are we ready?". Having a child can be very inconvenient, if not planned properly. We would have better people in this world if parents wait to have children when they are secured in life. When I say secured in life I mean, you both have a steady stream of income to where you can actually start saving. You are not drowning in debt and can actually say that your credit is improving. Sounds like somewhere in your mid 30's doesn't it? Where ever that is in your life, try and get there before having children. I want you to understand that your life is no longer about you once you become a parent, it becomes about your child. That child didn't ask to be brought into this world. The two of you created that child, therefore you two are responsible for raising that child. You two are responsible for, feeding your creation, caring for your creation, teaching your creation lessons you have overcome in your past. I stay away from right and wrong, because if you experienced something in your life that you survived by doing it your way, someone who didn't experience it will swear there is a logical legal, religious way to do it. Remember life is about experiences, teach your children the lessons you have learned. Don't rely on the media to raise your children, or the church, or even your parents. You two need to raise your children accordingly, because the harsh truth is that it takes two adults to effectively raise a child. If it is only one of you its going to be tremendously hard to do it yourself. Ask a single mother with two children if she wants a break and be prepared to hear yes.
I want you two to know that to be effective parents all you need to do is, be there for your children, shield them from the negativity of the world, and support their growth into another responsible member of society. Regardless of if you two are making great plans for the future and you have it all mapped out in your head, I urge you to wait until you have the necessities of life down before you have children. The necessities being a home, income to keep that home, reasonable transportation, and each others support. The sad thing is that life is beautiful, because she is mysterious. We never know what is next in life. One day you can have your sources of income that support your life, and the next day it can be gone, now you two need to figure something out to substitute it. That is fine, things happen but now raising your child has increased in difficulty. The harsh reality is that one of you can pass away at anytime. Now its just you and your children, and now raising your child has just become that more difficult. Many things can happen, from employment changes, to divorces, to deaths. Its all just life, we cant control that but we can make things easier on ourselves by making life easier to move through. I look at life as a video game where we pick our character then we pick our difficulty setting. Easy Mode: Married, Careers, Financial Stability. Difficult Mode: Single Parent, Dead End Jobs, Struggling Financially. If you introduce a child into the mix before you have that platform of stability you will have a difficult life there after.
These days people have children and aren't parents because they are still children themselves, then are peer pressured by society to try and do their best to be a parent. Why are they even parents if they are so young? Society is the culprit. Society is controlled by the media because it is what connects us, the media controls the news which is how we see our unity with the rest of the country. The number of advertisement that we see throughout any given day is staggering. Sex appeal is a powerful motivator, it sells shows and even ideas. Look at anime, guys were looked at as nerd and weirdos if they were interested in anime in any capacity with Dragon Ball Z being the only real exception. Eventually appeal started to increase for anime because of the acknowledgement of sexually appealing actors who enjoyed anime. Overnight everybody and their momma became anime fans. The main point is that sex appeal sells and a bi product is exploring your sexual curiosity. Young adults even young teens see these ads and watch different series that portray sexual exploits. Eventually you are going to have your own sexual experience, what ever age it is its going to happen. Regardless of when it is or if you were smart and used protection, you need to be prepared for the shocker that even a few pumps and dump can create a child. I don't care about abstinence, birth control (Side note, birth control ruins most girls body in the long run.), or contraceptives I just don't want you all to think the best thing to do is for these young people to do is have that baby.
The harsh truth is that society shames young people into raising mistakes and it needs to end. If you two did not plan to make a baby, but you did and you two are not stable, you two are doing that child a disservice. Where you grant that child life you subject that child to struggle, confusion, resentment, and years of unnecessary anguish. Not just the child but yourself, and your partner. I am not saying that you need to be in and out of abortion clinics, or be on regular Plan B coladas, but you need to take the proper precaution to prevent pregnancy. The rest of you need to realize the harsh truth that mistakes happen and proceeding forward with the pregnancy is only going to perplex life for everyone involved. If the two people involved want to proceed forward, let them that is their decision. But if either one is not comfortable with going forward, spare them, that child and the rest of society the burden of the mistake that has happened. Some parents force their children's significant other to go through with the pregnancy out of deflection of shame or to prevent a sullying of the family name. The bases for the majority of shotgun weddings. Out of trying to elude shame they invite struggle. In the name of doing what's right they force people who are not stable in life to make the best of a bad decision.
I'm sure some of you might be outraged but you know what, when you calm down you will realize that I am correct. You may have been a child brought up in a world where your parents weren't stable when they had you. Your parents may have gotten things together and done their best to raise you. To each is own, just don't force anyone to become a parent if they are not ready, because you will cause them to suffer unnecessarily as well as the child.
If you have some objections to what has been said do let me know below. I am interested in your points on why forcing someone who is not stable in life to become a parent is acceptable.
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